Ready for Marriage?
So I was talking to this man last night to is a fairly young christian. He's 26, but has lived a lot longer than my 23, which is longer than most people's 30 (we are talking experiences that a person has been through and their "relative age"). He was saying how he prays for a wife. This really struck me, and started being convicted myself. I for one did not see him anywhere near healed or ready to even be considering marriage, but what is ready you ask. Here are a few things I can think of.
Can you love your wife the way Christ loves you?
Can you love her even if she spits in your face?
And not even turn around, just stand there and tell her you still love her?
And no matter what she says or more important does, you will never say a harsh word to her?
Can you love your wife the way Hosea loved Gomer? Even if she whore's herself...literally, will you not turn away from her, and whenever she decides to come back, you will have her back?
Do you understand that your vows to her and God don't have any clauses, it says simply through everything till death due us part?
Can you love her even if she dishonors you, dishonors your marriage, does not return you Love?
Can you love her even if she does not respect you as head of the marriage, if she doesn't submit herself to you, or uphold any part of the bargain herself?
Can you make the decision to Love no matter if you feel like it or not? After all Love is a decision, not an emotion, fondness is an emotion.
And most importantly will you do all these things?
So if you can say yes without hesitation, you're probably ready for marriage men, if not, pray for the Lord to change these things in you, not that he will provide a wife. Cause he will either provide a wife or give you the ability to live without one, either way you are truly blessed.
Oh and for the women out there, will you submit yourselves to your husband the way you do to Christ, even if he does none of these things? To live in quietness and full submission to him, even if he is a lazy Ahab, and wont lead you at all? Will you still uphold your vows?
Update from the future:10/30/07
Although I really like what I had to say here in some respects, I think that what I was asking for was beyond the hardness of most people's hearts, including my own, that being said, the idea of sacrificing all your needs for the other will make any marriage strong, if both people are even half heartedly doing it.
Can you love your wife the way Christ loves you?
Can you love her even if she spits in your face?
And not even turn around, just stand there and tell her you still love her?
And no matter what she says or more important does, you will never say a harsh word to her?
Can you love your wife the way Hosea loved Gomer? Even if she whore's herself...literally, will you not turn away from her, and whenever she decides to come back, you will have her back?
Do you understand that your vows to her and God don't have any clauses, it says simply through everything till death due us part?
Can you love her even if she dishonors you, dishonors your marriage, does not return you Love?
Can you love her even if she does not respect you as head of the marriage, if she doesn't submit herself to you, or uphold any part of the bargain herself?
Can you make the decision to Love no matter if you feel like it or not? After all Love is a decision, not an emotion, fondness is an emotion.
And most importantly will you do all these things?
So if you can say yes without hesitation, you're probably ready for marriage men, if not, pray for the Lord to change these things in you, not that he will provide a wife. Cause he will either provide a wife or give you the ability to live without one, either way you are truly blessed.
Oh and for the women out there, will you submit yourselves to your husband the way you do to Christ, even if he does none of these things? To live in quietness and full submission to him, even if he is a lazy Ahab, and wont lead you at all? Will you still uphold your vows?
Update from the future:10/30/07
Although I really like what I had to say here in some respects, I think that what I was asking for was beyond the hardness of most people's hearts, including my own, that being said, the idea of sacrificing all your needs for the other will make any marriage strong, if both people are even half heartedly doing it.
posted by Zack Dawley at 3:46 PM
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